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Motivation, Where Are You?

5 Oct

The Writer sits behind her laptop, biting her nails and compulsively checking her email. It has been a few weeks since she queried two agents. When will they get back at her? And there it is, the ping of DREAD. Because the ping could be the doorway that leads to all her dreams, or it can extend the journey even more.

And there it is. A NO. Again. It’s not a harh no, it’s a not a no that informs you that you’re completely rubbish. Yet, that makes it even harder. To be so close and yet so far removed from The Dream.

We all go through it, and yet we go on. How can we not? We are writers. At the same time, though, it’s extremely hard to stay motivated enough to pour your soul out onto the pages and build a bond with new characters. Especially when your dayjob already demands a certain level of perfection from you. So how can you keep firing at every novel with all you’ve got when you’re covered in cuts and bruises and really just want to go to bed?

Google is your friend. Other than actual humans who NEED to give you peptalks, Google will help you next. If you look for brilliant authors whose works were initially rejected, or famous novels that were rejected A LOT, then you actually find plenty examples. Examples that will give you hope and make you realise that when you stick to your guns and you believe in your novels, you can make it. And keep in mind that with each novel that you write and receive feedback on, you grow as an author. So if you don’t get your bookdeal with this novel, then maybe with the next one. Keep writing, keep improving and especially KEEP ENJOYING the process. If you’re going to be in the spotlight some day, you might as well make sure that you have enough experience to SHINE.




When Things Go Wrong…

23 Sep

A wise man once told me: ”There are always things that go wrong, it’s how you handle it that matters.” He was right. Bad moments don’t define you, it’s how you handle them that do. Actions speak louder than words. You can tell a problem it’s not welcome, but getting rid of it is probably more effective. Finding the strength to do that is often the trick.

Life is a lot of things. And things go wrong. You strive for perfection and want the vision that you have in your head to play out in front of you, because…well, that’s what you want. We are dreamers, so we dream. The real world doesn’t hold dreams, we do. And so we strive to bring them into the world and make them real. But then it goes wrong. What now?

How do we handle the disappointment? The anger? The frustration? What do we do with our dream now? Now that it is lying shattered at our feet. Can we still fix it? Do we get a new dream? Do we WANT a new dream? Only you have the answers and each set of answers will be different for each person. Because when things go wrong, we all act differently. Our strength, though, lies in ourselves. We may not be able to change the circumstances, but we can change our attitude towards it. Even if it isn’t easy.

Happiness is vague. It’s a feeling that lasts a few moments. It is not an outcome or achievement that can be unlocked. You may have dreams and hopes and desires, but the real world is not a place that exists to fulfil your dreams. We were made to survive. The rest is just a bonus. So it is okay when things go wrong sometimes, because that is life. It doesn’t mean that life is going wrong. You have to find your inner drive and have a little faith in the outcome. You can’t know what will happen tomorrow, because each day is today. So why not live for that day? Why not do the things that can make you happy at that moment? Why not only think of what you can do now so that you will look back and think: that was an awesome day! It is too much pressure to think about what it’s like to look back at an awesome life, because it is so far away. And things can change quickly.

Let’s say you are waiting for a train that you know will come some day. There is lots to do on the platform, with lots of people there to meet and have a good time with (or not). Why spend all your time looking in the distance for that train that will definitely arrive eventually, when you can have fun and learn about these new people and things around you? Isn’t that the beautiful thing about life? That we are given a chance to, well,

be alive.


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